Tuesday, October 25, 2016

Allow yourself what you deserve and you’ll get what you need

personal growth

Did it ever happen that suddenly, when you least expected it, you got something you always wanted?

Did you ever try, sometime, the almost magical feeling that everything works as it should?

Did you have some days when everything flowed, almost naturally?

Some try to explain these facts resorting to fate, others say that the stars are aligned. But the explanation is much simpler, and it is within us. It’s not fairies or guardian angels, but ourselves that build these wonderful situations.

Good things don’t come by themselves, are not mere flukes, it is necessary that we actively seek them, that we want them and, above all, we do the necessary steps to get closer to them. Only this way, one day, they will materialize. Small steps, done consistently, will bring us closer to our goals.

The problem is that many times we become the main obstacle to the achievement of these goals, we are assailed by such a fear that, unconsciously, we sabotage everything we had done. From that momento on, things start to go wrong and we blame bad luck.

Internal resistences and fear of abundance

Even if it costs us admit it, we are too used to our comfort zone. In that space, although there are many things that concern us, there are also many things that give us security. We achieved a balance in which, more or less, we can survive. And we’re terrified to break this balance.

So often, we step back just when we are about to get a radical change for which we worked very long. When things break down, instead of blaming fate, we should ask ourselves what are the internal resistances that are activated.

In fact, in many cases, as close as the goal, the greater is fear because it means breaking forever with the comfort zone that we already know and follow the course of a new life that, even if we find it attractive, generates also a lot of fear. We suffer from what might be called “fear of abundance”. This fear is often paralyzing. Fear is so great that we're stuck and fail to act, it is at that moment when things that seemed to be going so well, start to get complicated.

How to overcome this resistances?

In some cases, these internal resistances are a sign that we are not ready yet to take the plunge. In fact, although the positive things seem perfect, they may involve changes for which we are not sufficiently prepared. It happens very often to celebrities who are crushed by the weight of success. In these cases, it is better not to force the events, have a little patience and work within us.

In other cases, these resistances are only an expression of fear of the unknown and leave what is familiar. Being aware of their existence is already a huge step. The second step is to prepare for the future, see what we will do, so to feel more and more comfortable in that situation that before frightened us. If we continue to move in this direction, sooner or later, this goal will come true.

If you change your thoughts, change your reality

In many cases, simply changing our thoughts we can change the reality around us. This is not to think you will become rich and get it, but a change in your way of thinking opens up numerous possibilities that before were closed.

Because in life, sometimes you don’t need to fight, but let yourself go with the flow, remaining attentive to opportunities that present themselves along the way.


Keep feeding your neurons

Allow yourself what you deserve and you’ll get what you need

Jennifer Delgado Suárez

Psicologist by profession and passion, dedicated to string words together. Discover my Books


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